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Rites are a way of helping the next of kin to recover. The absence of the remains
means that the victim’s family cannot conduct the usual rites. Rites help to make a
separation between life and death; they help alleviate the damage caused by the
impact of separation and achieve some acknowledgement by society. The rite allows
people to express solidarity and a person can feel accompanied in their sorrow. In
the case of disappearance, this form of recovery is blocked, because the next of kin
who have not recovered the remains of their loved ones are unable to conduct rites.
Often, the next of kin who consider conducting this type of ceremony feel guilty,
because it is as if they are accepting the death or “killing” of the family member who
has disappeared.
The lack of clarification of the facts generates uncertainty among the next of kin.
One factor that helps them progress towards concluding the mourning process is
being certain about the facts, not merely hearing different versions. The next of kin
need to understand why the event happened and know who the perpetrators were.
Public recognition helps to free up the pain locked up inside the person, which causes
a “privatizing of the damage.” The next of kin’s feelings of guilt are very frequent in
cases of forced disappearance. If there is no social response, acknowledging the
facts and the dignity of the victims, the interiorization of the damage will be much
greater.
From a psycho-social perspective, ways should be sought to alleviate the damage
caused by the disappearance. Accordingly, measures must be taken to provide
healthcare and psychological support, and also to ensure acknowledgement,
recovery of reputation, and forms of collective memory. From the psycho-social
perspective, this case is characterized by being a collective case, which has a greater
impact than an individual case. It has the particularity that, first, one group of
individuals was disappeared, and then two more people were disappeared during the
effort to search for the former. This has meant that the remaining next of kin have
had to halt any effort to discover the truth, because they have seen the
consequences of that effort for two people who tried to find the disappeared.
The “meaninglessness” of disappearance in this case is much greater, because there
is no connection between the activities those individuals carried out and forced
disappearance.
The alleged victims were young men, with elderly fathers and small children in most
cases. There has been a general pattern of very serious emotional pain and
suffering. The disappearance has had considerable impact on the stress levels of the
mothers, who have had to take charge of their families alone, and have had to
assume the role of both mother and father, and also of the sisters of those who
disappeared, who have had to take on the care of the family.
Most of the next of kin of the victims have had symptoms of traumatic memories and
recollections associated with a feeling of profound emotional agitation, as effects of
repressing their emotions and “emotional anesthesia.” The latter refers to the
mechanisms that the next of kin adopted to protect themselves from an
indeterminate pain, such as pretending they were all right or making a tacit
agreement within the family not to talk about what had happened. As a result, each
member of the family endures his or her own private personal feelings without
knowing what the other members of the family are going through. “Emotional